Wednesday, July 20, 2005

In Your Face.

I currently work with three gay people. As most of you know, I am very supportive of gay rights. I support full recognition of gay marriages, long prison stays for hate criminals and so on.

Here's where Vavoom draws the line. Look, I know that being gay or lesbian is important to you. Pretty please, with sugar on top -- stop throwing your sexual preference in my face. I'm heterosexual, but you don't see me reminding you of that fact every hour, on the hour while at work. Sexual preference, skin color, religion and the like, shouldn't matter. Translation: We shouldn't have to continually remind one another that we're all different. I mean, I don't walk around work reminding everyone that I'm not white. "Hey there, remember me, Vavoom? Yeah, I'm not white. Look, look, pay attention to the tan hues of my skin. Doesn't my tan skin color go well with my heterosexuality?"

There has to be more to you than your sexual identity.

There's nothing wrong with having a strong sense of identity and heritage. Please don't confuse that with your compulsion to tell me about your newly purchased dildo.

I'm perfectly comfortable hearing such discussions and witnessing unprofessional behavior, when it's infrequent. When it happens routinely, it does get tiring.

17 Comments:

Blogger dusty said...

I think at some point i would have to say something tacky like: "Do you have ANYTHING else to talk about besides your sexual libido? If so please only then address me nimrod, your lack of conversation is very boring." as a matter of fact i have used that line on someone at work..he shut the hell up and half the office cubicles had clapping coming from them. :)

12:47 PM  
Blogger Megan said...

Too true...I don't want to hear about anyone's sexploits at work be they gay straight or whatever. We aren't in high school anymore and no one is impressed.

Its great that people feel they can be open about who they are, but it almost sounds like they want people to be uncomfortable with it.

1:25 PM  
Blogger irishkeough said...

I haven't had sex in 3 years. The exploits of others are all that I have. Also, Vavoom still needs to return some books to a library before he goes to the East.

1:40 PM  
Blogger Edge said...

Quite honestly if I had had to write a dissertation for my master's thesis in counseling I was going to choose something either on exhibitionism or something on homosexality being classified as a sexual addiction.

It has all the traits and tags for sexual addiction.

I don't like the gay lifestyle or the outspoken gay agenda.

But .. I have gay friends and I think they are nice.

You don't care if I'm heterosexual, I don't care if you're homosexual. Move on ...

~Jef

3:20 PM  
Blogger European said...

Hey Vavoom, I've been meaning to tell you that your tanish skin color goes excellently with your heterosexuality.

Sorry you're being annoyed. Sorry I chuckled about it.

6:09 PM  
Blogger Fred said...

Every day in school, I hear "that's so gay" about a hundred times a day.

You think you have it bad?

6:20 PM  
Blogger Davydgrey said...

You know Vavoom, you have the most unusual experiences out of anyone I know, between lab feuds and the sexual exploits of your coworkers, your life would make a darn interesting TV show.

6:21 PM  
Blogger Moose said...

Some people like to paint a target on their chest and then become outraged when someone uses it. Just my opinion.

7:34 PM  
Blogger An80sNut said...

Actually, when it happens routinely, it becomes sexual harassment. There is one very openly gay male at my work that has offered me money to show my 'friend' to him. Sure, being open about your sexuality is one thing but trying to solicit is another and sometimes the line blurs.

Here's a scary example: I walk into our breakroom at work and (said gay male left unnamed) is sitting at the table nearby. He focuses his attention on my crotch for about 5 minutes and at some point I notice. He then makes an mmmmmmmmmmm sound.

I do think he's calmed down though. When he seems to get randy around work, I quickly start talking about breasts and he'll leave the area.

8:01 PM  
Blogger Teri said...

Martin- you need and excuse to talk about breasts? hahahah

11:06 PM  
Blogger RT said...

Oh Vavoom. I can sympathize with you. I really can. I know exactly where you're coming from...

Remember, I'm a chick. I've been having to put up with uninvited lewd comments and indecent stares from guys for years.

11:47 PM  
Blogger Jenn said...

*bows down*

I couldn't have said it better, Vavoom.

3:41 AM  
Blogger FantasticAlice said...

Good Post! I am a supporter of gay rights... I have gay friends and gay relatives. I have brought this up to my aunt and er uh um ... aunt before asking why it seems that they flaunt their sexuality of being homosexual around us (granted they don't, but I'm family and I'm sure they consider anything like that gay or straight to be rude). They said although it may seem like they are doing it more than heteros that maybe we hear heteros say things like that all day long and and we just don't necessarily compute this in our head because it is so natural to listen to... ie)check out the rack/ass on her... and that we just aren't used to hearing homosexuals talk this way.

Either way, my Aunts and I agree that there is a place and time for anyone to speak this way and the work place is NOT it. I would certainly consider that to be sexual harrasement.

Post-Scriptum: Let the gays marry... it will keep 'em from marrying us straight people (chuckle, chuckle).

9:36 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Nice write-up !!

2:13 PM  
Blogger GayBoy said...

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2:24 PM  
Blogger GayBoy said...

We shouldn't have to continually remind one another that we're all different"

Yet that happens every day. After much opposition from the Conservative Party of Canada, Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals, and Transgendered alike will finally be able to legally marry! This is just one of many rights and freedoms that "normal" people have taken for granted.


After Bill C-38 passed Prime Minister Paul Martin Said " This is about the Charter of Rights. We are a nation of minorities. And in a nation of minorities, It is important that you don't cherry-pick rights. A right is a right and that's what this vote tonight is all about"

I understand you point, Some GLBT find it fun to be so "in your face" so to speak, and it's wrong. In this day and age everyone should love everyone, be respectfull, treat each other as equals, and just get along. But unfortunatlly, that's not happening.

People are still being attacked for anything that makes them different, be it how they look, speak, act, etc. Until that day comes when everyone is treated the same, we all have to work together.

Happy pride everyone!

2:33 PM  
Blogger Mr. Snitch said...

It's the potty-mouth. Gay guys can't resist it.

3:06 AM  

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